One word that can make you want to punch a man in the face

I had been dating someone and he would call me baby. The way he did it made me want to drop my panties on the spot. I found this so odd. Some men do it and it makes you cringe, others it is sweet and endearing. So like in all things I had to message a friend about this to see if I was alone in this.

Me

Why is it that when some men call you baby it’s a total turn off and others it’s totally fucking hot…and I mean men that you are dating….seems weird….some guys say and it creeps me out, others it’s causes more of a bed me now reaction..

J

Ummm….great question because you’re so right on about it!

Me

I just don’t get it

Cuz some guys say it and you want to punch them

J

Bad.

And then run.

Like it makes u literally ill.

Me

lol, yep

 

I can only assume that it has to do with underlying attraction and animal magnetism. My current fella says “baby” and I want to curl up into his arms and stay there forever, or until I need to pee. Which seems to be the best reaction. Sorry for the sappy. That is just where I am right now. I know; it’s revolting! Anyway, it isn’t just me!

Dating Hell–somehow I think this will be the title of so very many posts.

Why the hell is it that when you meet a good guy (not nice, good) there is no spark on your side of it? Why is it that the guy who can cope with your level of crazy, your stress, you kids (and even likes them, a lot) has no appeal.

Now, I am aware that I was recently falling head over heels for someone who apparently has too much stuff going on in their own life to pursue something even though they are interested. I don’t hold it against him. It hurts, I am someone you can lean on. Anyway, they don’t have it in them, I don’t feel I can afford to sit and wait to see if things would work out. But I know that feeling. I know when I have met someone that I’m going to fall hard for and that was going on. Maybe that is why I’m not feeling the spark for the new good guy…

I find dating horribly confusing. Somehow ass holes suck many of us in. Good guys seem to repel us a bit. It all makes me feel a bit insane.

when is it ok?

Ok, I’ve been on my own for almost 10 years so CLEARLY I need some help here ;-). When in the dating procedure is it ok to tell a guy you want them? (Yes, It is a procedure. It is a painful series of steps that you have to get just right…and I never do.) Common sense tells me that men are happy to hear that a woman wants to have sex with them at any point, but if it is too early on does it give the wrong impression? I went with sometime after you are having sex. I can’t help but think that if the timing isn’t just so it may be a relationship killer.

Now, I have absolutely no quantifiable evidence of this. It just seems that it’s something that falls into the realm of men’s double standard peculiarities. I would love for men to comment on this. (I will tally it up and not do statistical analysis on it…just for fun.)

living alone

I’m sitting here, a bit horny and two glasses of wine in, and I’m thinking I’ve been living alone for almost 10 years. Now, I’ve stayed over at my boyfriend’s house here and there; and he here occasionally (when I have had one).  For the most part I feel that I have missed out on nightly nookie (or at least the potential access to it) and cuddling for 10 years.

I hear women who say they are just fine being single, and I am to a point. I think it’s utter B.S. though that they don’t miss having someone next to them night after night. Maybe some women really would rather have a separate bedrooms from their hubbies or live-ins. I did hate sleeping next to my ex husband, but he was mean and would elbow me out of bed. I “get” not wanting to sleep next to something like that. For me, at least 1/4 of the desire for a relationship is having someone next to you at night, even when they aren’t in the mood for cuddling or nookie.

I absolutely crave touch. I think we all do. I miss a hand on the waist as he walks past and other small touches in passing. Sleeping next to a partner though, that is a drug for me. That has probably kept me in a bad relationship or two longer than it should have. Even if it was sporadic, knowing that later in the week I could curl up next to him. Give me a man who truly cuddles, holy crap! I’m an idiot. My blood pressure drops ridiculously low and I would do just about anything for a man who really knows how to cuddle.

So you crazy women, who go on and on about how it’s easier to be on your own, go ahead and be alone. That just leaves me with more options!